When the family tree looses a branch… Have you ever taken a hiatus from your research? It’s common for people to take a break for several reasons work, family, and other obligations take up your time. It happens to us all.
On my way home from my 9-5 job, I was thinking about my youngest son, Daniel. Three years ago this month he was diagnosed with lymphoma. I remember taking my laptop/tablet with me while he was in the hospital. Sitting there, working on research while he was in bed next to my chair. He died that May, after spending about 1-1/2 weeks in the ICU.
I, along with his 2 siblings decided putting him in the ground was not the way to go. He loved the outdoors, hunting, fishing, etc. So we had his remains cremated & spread his ashes on some of the family land that was wooded, next to the pond. He was not married or had children of his own, and felt that he needed to “fly”.
The weekend we set him free we had 4-wheeling, water balloon fights, fireworks, cookouts, and campfires just to name a few. We celebrated his life by doing the things he would enjoy. It was a weekend that also helped us to heal, as we not only shared stories but remembered him in the things that he loved.
After the “busy” phase of his death. I found myself with extra time to research, that I normally would not have had. Due to taking some extra time off work. I wanted to search, but I could not bring myself to do it, as I kept thinking that part of my family was missing.
When I thought of working on the tree, I would think about how I needed to add his death certificate & burial information, and I just couldn’t bring my self to do it. Maybe deep down inside I felt as if by doing this I was closing the door on him.
Obviously, I did find myself researching again. After a couple of months, I decided to just do it. So I got out the laptop, scanned his death certificate, logged on to findagrave.com and completed his details. When I did this, I was actually amazed at what a relief it was to have it finally done.
I often think of him in many ways, but when it comes to researching, I find myself asking him to send me a hint, and smile. He loved to laugh & joke and I can imagine he’s sitting there giving me all kinds of clues, knowing I will not even realize that he has. Maybe I should ask him to show me the clues?
What are your thoughts?
I wonder, have you ever taken a leave from your family tree? What helped you to keep researching? Please let me know in the comments below.