When the family tree looses a branch… Have you ever taken a hiatus from your research? It’s common for people to take a break for several reasons work, family, and other obligations take up your time. It happens to us all.
On my way home from my 9-5 job, I was thinking about my youngest son, Daniel. Three years ago this month he was diagnosed with lymphoma. I remember taking my laptop/tablet with me while he was in the hospital. Sitting there, working on research while he was in bed next to my chair.
He died that May, after spending about 1-1/2 weeks in the ICU. We had he remains cremated and spread his ashes on some family ground that was wooded. He loved the outdoors, hunting, fishing etc.
After the “busy” phase of his death. I found myself with extra time to research, that I normally would not have had. Due to taking extra time off work. I wanted to search, but I could not bring myself to do it, as I kept thinking that part of my tree was missing.
When I thought of working on the tree, I would think about how I needed to add his death certificate & burial information, and I just couldn’t bring my self to do it. Maybe deep down inside I felt as if by doing this I was closing the door on him.
Obviously, eventually, I did find myself researching again. After a couple of months, I decided to just do it. So I got out the laptop, scanned his death certificate, logged on to findagrave.com and completed his end. When I did this, I was actually amazed at what a relief it was to have it finally done.
I often think of him in many ways, but when it comes to researching, I find myself asking him to send me a hint, and smile. He loved to laugh & joke and I can imagine he’s sitting there giving me all kinds of clues, knowing I will not even realize that he has done it.
What are your thoughts?
I wonder, have you ever taken a leave from your family tree, that could have been a permanent leave? What helped you to keep researching? Please let me know in the comments below.